It’s the happy holiday season, and you’re already feeling the pressure. If you’re like most of us, you’re already hearing that inner voice that pushes you to do more, reminding you that it is up to you to make this a holiday season to remember while telling you that no matter what you’re doing, it is not enough.
How Your Girly Thoughts Turn Up the Holiday Pressure
I’ve named this toxic, negative self-talk your girly thoughts. Girly thoughts function as an internal gauge of perfection against which you measure yourself, and guess what? You find yourself falling short from where you feel you should be.
Here is what your girly thoughts are telling you and what you can do about them:
Consider writing a lovely email letter and sending this out instead.
Instead, tell yourself: I need to make meals I will enjoy. Consider:
Change this to: I need to feel comfortable. Too tired after a day of working and an evening of cooking to wear those heels to the party? Ditch them.
Consider setting reasonable limits on what you will and will not do. Notice the emphasis is not on what you can do but what you will do.
Change this to acknowledging each recipient’s specialness, and stay tuned for a blog on gift giving.
Give Yourself a Gift for the Holidays—Detox from Your Girly Thoughts
Girly thoughts act like a conduit through which all your discomfort, all the stresses of your life, are filtered, and the holidays just magnify that discomfort.
So this holiday season, give yourself a great gift: stop listening to that negative, toxic voice that tells you what you should do and instead look for ways to reduce your stress so you can experience all the joy of the season.
Remember, you’ll find more ideas for getting rid of your negative self-talk in my latest book, The Girly Thoughts 10-Day Detox Plan: The Resilient Woman’s Guide to Saying NO to Negative Self-Talk and YES to Personal Power